This post has been brewing in my mind for several weeks now. I've wanted to start it a few times, and then decided against it because it has the potential to cause some friction. I promise, I'm not trying to stir the pot in any way, but the need to get this off my chest is so enormous today, that I'm just going to go for it. I'm very, very sorry if this offends anyone. Here goes...
Both of my kids are actively involved in sports. There are many reasons why we chose to involve them in sports at young ages. For me, it's about so much more than learning how to play hockey, how to dance, how to field a baseball, or throw a football. SO much more. My kids have made life-long friends that they probably never would have met if they weren't involved in these things. They have learned what it means to be part of a team, and how each person is an important contributor to reach your final goal. The team is slightly weaker when even one person is missing. They have felt the "highs" of winning, and the "lows" of losing. Teamwork. Determination. Setting goals, working hard, and achieving them. Following rules, and paying the consequences if the rules are broken. Having fun with a little competition thrown in. Sportsmanship. So so many important life lessons that I know I couldn't teach them on my own.
I turn them over to their coaches and teachers every day, and I trust that they will teach them to the best of their ability. I honestly believe they have done, and will continue to do an amazing job.
I turn them over to their coaches and teachers.
I give my support, and I cheer them on (quite loudly!)...
I celebrate with them, and I wipe their tears when needed...
But I let the coaches and teachers do their jobs.
I am not the dance teacher. I am not the referee.
I will get a little more specific.
There are PLENTY of times in a PeeWee hockey game that a ref will either make a call I do not agree with, or fail to make a call I think they should have. Plenty. Do you know what I do about it? Nothing at all. Sure I get disappointed and may mumble a little something, but I have never, ever yelled out anything at a ref. It is my opinion that shouting at refs, coaches, or players with anything negative is a waste of time, and annoys EVERYONE around you, and makes you look like a fool. I am ALL FOR making noise in the stands by cheering your team on. Asking a ref for a tripping call 37 times in one game is unacceptable to me. When someone around me does it, it absolutely ruins the game for me.
And I'm not even kidding.
This is a game. For fun. Negative comments from people around me are making games not fun for me. Maybe I'm being a little overly sensitive on the issue, but I'd like to think that I know a little about watching from the stands since I've been sitting in them for the past eight years.
I guess there are three things I'm looking to accomplish in this post:
1. What are your thoughts on this? Have you experienced it? What have you done about it?
2. I absolutely had to get this off my chest somewhere. I'm sure hubs will not be pleased with me for posting this, but I just had to.
3. If you are a spectator to any sport, PLEASE think before you speak. Yelling at the refs will do you NO GOOD, and will only get them mad at your team, and will begin to make calls against your team. Trust me.
I try so hard to teach good sportsmanship to my kids. I cannot understand what the Negative Nelly's are trying to teach their children buy being so disrespectful and rude.
On a happier note, our hockey team won first place in our home tournament last weekend, and second place in another tournament we were in this weekend. We won our first three games this weekend 2-0, 14-0, and 3-0. When you are a goalie mom and your son has three shutouts in a row in a tournament, you are beaming. We ended up losing in the championship game 6-3, but it really was a very close game. The team we were playing against got two empty-netters when they pulled Andy to get an extra skater at the end. I'm so proud of every single boy on our team.
Also, one of the hockey moms from our team posted this as her Facebook status yesterday, and I absolutely couldn't agree more.
Well said, Kristi. Hope you don't mind I shared this here! Just think of what the government could accomplish if they spent as much time, energy, and money on more important things than campaigning!
And Jack, the Hooper's believe in miracles. Never give up.
So, please everyone. Remember what is important. Teach your kids to be good people. Be a good person.